“Maybe the most important teaching is to lighten up and relax. It’s such a huge help in working with our crazy mixed-up minds to remember that what we’re doing is unlocking a softness that is in us and letting it spread. We’re letting it blur the sharp corners of self-criticism and complaint.” -Pema Chödrön
One of the hardest parts of parenting is accepting “what is” and letting go of what we think “should be”. How many times in this motherhood do we all dream about what we would like to do someday? We long to: practice yoga, make art, crochet, sculpt or grow a garden. It’s hard to find time to do the things that feed our souls while we have small humans climbing all over us. We may even feel now and then like our children are “messing up” what we are trying to accomplish. They bump our arms a thousand times while we are trying to paint pottery with them. They see downward dog and think “jungle gym!” We lose count on our knitting pattern as we stop to nurse fussy babies. We want to play music but tiny hands have decided our ukuleles needs retuning!
The beauty in motherhood…and in life, comes when we can see our little one’s punctuations not as interruptions or interference but begin to accept them as part of the beauty of life.
These frustrations are teaching us to embrace the moment and to love what we cannot change. When we confront our tiny spiritual teachers with resistance we experience their lessons as disruptive. If we can greet them instead with open arms and acceptance we will be able to integrate the teachings they hold for us.
The beautiful moments are when we can greet our mistakes with gentleness. We then realize that we will undoubtedly make mistakes both in creative endeavors and as parents but remember that our children are looking to us for information about how to be in the world. Imagine if we could teach our children by example to treat themselves and each other as compassionate, benevolent observers who respond only with loving acceptance.
We can choose to accept “what is”. We can allow the wisdom of this motherhood to flow through us as we accept what is and love ourselves by doing what brings us joy even if it doesn’t turn out the way we envisioned.
Mothers are powerful. You are powerful. Take a moment to breathe today and be grateful for what is because acceptance of each moment is the key to loving our imperfect, beautiful, messy, wild, wonderful journey.
“Rejoicing in ordinary things is not sentimental or trite. It actually takes guts. Each time we drop our complaints and allow everyday good fortune to inspire us, we enter the warrior’s world.” -Pema Chödrön
Thank you so much for welcoming us into your relationships by using our wraps to carry your precious travelers.. We feel so honored and touched that by being part of our community you have made us part of your Motherhood journey.
Happy Mother’s Day from the whole Uppymama Team